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Reading Aloud

Posted on March 8, 2015September 17, 2017 by Dot

Henry's Awful MistakeLast Wednesday was National Read Aloud Day.  I’m sorry I missed it. March 4 in Arkansas was the day of 40 inches of rain followed by a sno-nami. Like many others I let my focus on the weather make me forget more important things — like reading aloud.

I honed my read-aloud skills when I was a child reading the newspaper to my grandfather, who was blind. I still read out loud — scripts when I’m learning lines, poetry often, a story or essay as I edit or critique.

In the past, I frequently read aloud to my children and grandchildren. And to other children — in Sunday School, Kindergarten, Day Care, Mothers Day Out, Vacation Bible School. In her day, Miss Dot did a killer circle time.

I really enjoy read-aloud picture books, especially when there is an audience of 2-4 year olds to listen. Recently I came across several I had kept through the years. Goodnight Moon and Poky Little Puppy and another that might not be as familiar.

Henry’s Awful Mistake by Robert Quackenbush was published in 1981 by Parents Magazine Press and I don’t remember where I bought it sometime in the 90s. But it’s a wonderful read-aloud book. Henry is a duck who sees an ant in his kitchen while he is preparing supper. He doesn’t want to spray around the food, so he takes after the ant with a frying pan. He proceeds to destroy his house trying to get the little insect. The drawings are delightful, each picture featuring a tiny ant hiding somewhere for the child to find.

I was interested to see this book listed on Amazon, both new and used. It had 27 reviews: 20 positive and the others criticizing mostly the condition of the book they received.

Another favorite I remember is The Broken Vase, circa 1965. Alas, I left my copy at a church where I worked in the 70s. But this book is also listed on Amazon and I fed my sentimentality by ordering a used copy. I should receive it next week. I’m sorry I have forgotten the name of the writer and it was not visible on the website.

This is a story about a little girl who throws a temper tantrum and breaks her mother’s favorite vase. Her mother yells, “You did that on purpose!” and the little girl has to admit to herself that yes, she did do it on purpose. There is reconciliation and a happy ending. It’s a wonderful story of feelings —  anger, repentance, forgiveness and, as I said, reconciliation.

Don’t wait for this National Day to roll around again. Open a book and listen to the sound of your voice as you read.

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Snowbound-ish

Posted on March 2, 2015September 17, 2017 by Dot

SnowboundI learned some things about myself while I was snowbound.

Actually, I would think I know my character pretty well. As one who has taken many personality tests, the first being in 1975, I’m fairly self-aware.

I am bluish-gold (True Colors); my Myers Briggs acronym is ESFJ, though I can’t remember what that stands for; according to Trent and Smalley, I’m a golden retriever; my introvert/extrovert score is a near tie, as is my thinking/feeling; I’m a better helper/maintainer than I am a creator; my spiritual gifts are service and administration.

I gain energy from quiet exercises like reading, but also from super-extrovert activities like being on stage.

So when I woke up to an icy snow day a couple of weeks ago, that was fine. My workplace was closed, I could spend the day enjoying a quiet time.

This was my first snow day since becoming an empty-nester and my house was really quiet. The first day was wonderful. So wonderful that by the second day I was ready to go back to work. However, my office was still closed.

The third day, snow/ice still on the ground, our work schedule resumed … for 3 days. Then another snow day and several days of inclement weather.

And what did I find out about myself? I couldn’t be a monk. All that solitude? No talking? Fasting!?  Not for me.

It’s no fun being a people person when there are no people around.

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St. Valentine’s Day

Posted on February 11, 2015September 17, 2017 by Dot

Valentines DayIn case you have been out of the country and haven’t heard, Saturday is St. Valentine’s Day. The day of love. The last two weekends have been full of stories about the local Father/Daughter dances and parties in the communities around Beebe.  I am happy that for the past two years our church has held a “You’re Special to Me” Dance.  Anyone can come with anyone they love. It’s a great success.

Friday, children will tote their Valentine cards to school to exchange with their friends. They will have a party with packaged treats (parents can’t bake cupcakes any more), and experience a sugar high not known since December.

A few years ago, on the game show 1 VS 100, a young man won $1,000,000 because he knew that the largest number of greeting cards sent was at Christmas. The crowd had guessed Mother’s Day or Valentine’s Day.

I would have guessed Christmas, even though many people have stopped sending cards and settle for a group email or a “Merry Christmas Everyone” on Facebook.

I send about 50 Christmas cards, mostly to old friends and family I won’t see during the holidays. My mother sent twice that, adding many of my dad’s business friends and associates to the list.  But I digress.

I mailed only one Valentine this year … to my great grandson, Noah. I included a few Valentine stickers I knew he would enjoy. It’s up to his parents to see that they are stuck only in appropriate places.

I will spend February 14 with three of my favorite people, my writing group. We meet every 2nd Saturday at the Faulkner County Library in Conway. We will surely exchange tokens of our friendship and love for each other before we wield the red pencils.

Happy Valentine’s Day.

I wish you love.

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Words Words Words

Posted on January 31, 2015September 17, 2017 by Dot

When my youngest son was in 3rd grade, the teacher would give the class new spelling words each Monday. Their assignment was to return on Tuesday with their  definition of the word. Then the class would use the dictionary to see how close they had come to the correct meaning.

One week, ‘disappoint’ was on the list. Phillip said the meaning of that word was “to make someone mad at you.” I got the message. Someone — probably me or a caregiver — had said to my little boy “I’m disappointed in you,” in a voice that conveyed not disappointment but anger.

When I shared this with the teacher, she said more than half the class gave similar answers.

We hear a word used in a certain context and either because of body language or context we assume its meaning. I was grown before I realized that ‘cohorts’ didn’t mean ‘partners in crime,’ my frame of reference being Jesse James and his ‘cohorts.’

According to my F in Exams daily calendar, a high school student answered a test question: Romeo and Juliet is written entirely in Islamic pentameter.

An acquaintance once told me she had been invited to several holiday parties and needed ‘to retaliate.’  I’m sure she meant reciprocate, but then again . . .

I read this week that ‘irregardless’ is now a considered a word. Not a particularly good word, but it has been used enough to gain that distinction. That’s sad.

Does all this mean that when someone facebooks ‘time is going to fast’ that it might indicate life is swiftly passing us by? Or does it mean it will soon be too late to take part in an ancient spiritual discipline?

Sigh.

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Perspective on Bad Habits

Posted on January 18, 2015September 17, 2017 by Dot

We’re just past the middle of January, 2015. So how are those New Year resolutions working out for you?

I love January. It feels like a second chance — a time to start again and do things better and stop doing things I shouldn’t.

Well, I read this week that some bad habits aren’t really that bad. They just might need a little tweaking to make them acceptable.

For instance, skipping breakfast. “Breakfast is vital — if you’re baling hay.” Seriously, if the most physical effort required of you each morning is to turn on the computer (or TV) then  you should be allowed to eat when you get hungry — like mid-morning.

Or, binge-watching television. Studies say people who “watch more that 2 hours of TV each night have greater incidences of diabetes and heart disease.” Okay, I’m done for.

But maybe the issue is not the TV program but the inactivity. That can be fixed by getting out of your chair during those 5 minute commercials. In 5 minutes you can load or unload the dishwasher, put in a load of laundry, or run up and down the stairs a couple of times. (Well, best not run, maybe.)

Another bad habit we try to conquer is losing our tempers. But we all know that suppressing anger isn’t healthy either. When things eat at you, find a trusted friend and vent, call a help line, or journal.

There is great benefit in writing through your feelings. One is that you can ‘use’ it later in your stories and another is, when you die, your kids will know just how irritated you were!

For those of us who think we need to do more, be more, excel, and win (and be in control): “Multi-tasking is a fantasy. The brain can’t do more than two things at once. Trying to do more strains the memory and limits the performance.”  So trying to do too much means we might not only forget to do something but we won’t do a very good job of what we do remember.

So. HAPPY NEW YEAR! Take it easy! Enjoy life!

 Material for this post was taken from an article, The Good News About Bad Habits by Jodi Helmer; AARP the Magazine, January 2015

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Dot Hatfield

Dot Hatfield

Dot Hatfield is a member of the Arkansas Writers Hall of Fame and a Certified Lay Speaker in the United Methodist Church. She is the author of 7 books.

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