Category: Writing

Adventures are more fun when shared with a friend, right?  This year I thought I might miss the Arkansas Writers’ Conference entirely, but almost last-minute decided I could go on Saturday to the last day of the event.

I volunteered to drive to the North Little Rock campus of Pulaski Tech College, and duly printed off the directions.  I left my house before 7:00 a.m. to pick up Kayla, my young-enough-to-be-my-granddaughter friend from the White County Creative Writers’ group.

I know where she lives. I’ve been there before. It’s on a corner. But as I cruised around the Kamack addition, I couldn’t seem to find either of the streets I needed to locate her corner.

Have I ever mentioned here that I am directionally challenged? I have lived in Beebe 15 years but am still able to lose my way going from point A to point B.

Of course I finally found her house, however, this beginning was a foreshadow of how the day was going to go.

We actually made it to the conference on time with no problems, after we figured out that exit 152B is off I-40 rather than Highway 67/167.

The morning sessions were wonderful, full of good speakers and learning. Kayla was able to pitch her book to a publisher. Since neither of us had registered early enough to be in the lunch count, we dashed out to find something to eat.

We stopped at the first food place we saw which, when we stepped inside, looked like Botulism City. Silently agreeing/ hoping that the hot grease would kill most germs, we ordered take out and rushed back to have lunch on Pulaski Tech’s patio. The Lord’s hand was on us and neither of us got sick.

After a stimulating afternoon, we started the trek home. The idea was to read the directions that had brought us there and ‘flip flop’. But when I arrived at the place where I had exited I-40 East I saw no directions on how to get onto I-40 West. Nor did I see any instructions on the other side of the underpass.

So I continued straight ahead. This was after all a busy thoroughfare. Surely it would lead me to more familiar territory. In time, I came to HWY 107.

“I’ve heard of HWY 107,” I said. “It should intersect with a street I know.”

I turned onto that highway, using the western sun to choose my direction, the North Star being unavailable.

After we had gone a few miles, Kayla reached in her purse and said, “I’ll just get my phone and turn on the GPS.”

“YOU HAVE A GPS?” I inquired.

She queried 67/167 and we immediately heard the voice saying to turn right the next chance we got. I saw the Sherwood city limit sign and breathed a sigh of relief. Oh good, we’re still in Arkansas.

Of course we found 67/167 just south of Jacksonville and in due time made it home.  An adventurous day well spent.

My friend Kayla is Kayla Shown-Dean, free lance writer and author of Muted. Check out her website and blog here.

If God called me to any task in this life, it must be to be a Mom. My entrance into this adventure began in 1953, when I was not quite 20 years old.

I’ve been a mom, a step-mom, a grandma, and most recently a “Grandma Dot”, dubbed such by great-grands. I have been a stay-at-home mom, a working mom, a single mom, a mother-and grandmother-in-law. In 1989 I joined the ranks of 1.5 million seniors raising children they did not give birth to. From that I became a guardian, foster and finally an adoptive (aka ‘real’) mom.

I know I made some mistakes, but I must have done a fairly good job. I have a pillow that says “Greatest Mom in the Entire Universe”. What more can I say?

It’s strange that almost anywhere one applies for a job, experience is required. Yet, becoming a parent was a duty I took on with no experience whatsoever and from then on it was OJT (on the job training).

I learned the rhetorical questions: “Are you trying to drive me crazy?”

The dire predictions: “That balloon is going to pop.”

The astute observations: “You’d lose your head if it wasn’t tied on.”

Still, it’s not learning those things that made me a mother. It’s the wiping tears and shedding tears. It’s the praying and protecting. It’s the caring and the counseling. And, it’s the letting go.

That’s the hardest thing a parent is called on to do. Whether it’s 5-years-old going to kindergarten, an 18-year-old leaving for college or work, or a thirty-something moving off and taking your grandchildren with them — Moms want to hold onto their children, see them, talk to them often. Just to make sure they’re okay.

Years ago, my sister-in-law shared this thought with me:

“You visualize yourself holding your charges in your hands, shielding them from the world, caring for them. Then, you place your hands inside God’s hands. Next, you slowly remove your hands. Now your loved ones are in God’s hands. You have placed them there and they couldn’t be in a safer place.”

I am truly blessed in my role as Mother. It’s fun. My children don’t wait for a special day to let me know I am loved. I feel it every day. Love you guys!

When my youngest son was in 3rd grade, the teacher would give the class new spelling words each Monday. Their assignment was to return on Tuesday with their  definition of the word. Then the class would use the dictionary to see how close they had come to the correct meaning.

One week, ‘disappoint’ was on the list. Phillip said the meaning of that word was “to make someone mad at you.” I got the message. Someone — probably me or a caregiver — had said to my little boy “I’m disappointed in you,” in a voice that conveyed not disappointment but anger.

When I shared this with the teacher, she said more than half the class gave similar answers.

We hear a word used in a certain context and either because of body language or context we assume its meaning. I was grown before I realized that ‘cohorts’ didn’t mean ‘partners in crime,’ my frame of reference being Jesse James and his ‘cohorts.’

According to my F in Exams daily calendar, a high school student answered a test question: Romeo and Juliet is written entirely in Islamic pentameter.

An acquaintance once told me she had been invited to several holiday parties and needed ‘to retaliate.’  I’m sure she meant reciprocate, but then again . . .

I read this week that ‘irregardless’ is now a considered a word. Not a particularly good word, but it has been used enough to gain that distinction. That’s sad.

Does all this mean that when someone facebooks ‘time is going to fast’ that it might indicate life is swiftly passing us by? Or does it mean it will soon be too late to take part in an ancient spiritual discipline?

Sigh.